Do you miss your kids because you work full time?
Feel guilty because your kids are in daycare all day?
Try this! Think about what you would do with the extra time with your kids.
I’m a pen and paper kinda girl so I would write down some of those ideas. 🙂
Now think about how you can get the time you desire.
Do you need to look at other income or lifestyle options?
Think outside the box. You can create the life that you dream of!
Your possibilities are greater than you think but you have to change your mindset first.
Don’t think of why you can’t have the time with your kids that you want.
Instead, think of how you can get the time with your kids that you want.
Believe in yourself and your dream life.
Begin taking actions, even small actions, to get you closer to where you want to be.
Be ruthless with your time and commitments.
4 ways to immediately increase/enhance the time you have with your kids
I know this isn’t easy for everyone and I’ve had to practice but I’m improving. You must be ruthless with your time and commitments. Here are 4 ways to take control.
- You must stop allowing your time and energy to be wasted on the things that are not
most important to you.
- Do only those things that are essential.
- Spend the extra time doing what you really want to do, what brings you joy and makes you feel happy and peaceful.
- Allow yourself the guilt-free enjoyment of true quality time with your kids. For me, my ideal is taking my son (2 years old) to the zoo and having a relaxing time walking/running around the zoo with my time and attention devoted totally to him.
While I daydream about doing these myself, I rarely get around to all of them… but I have given myself the time and space to stay home with my son on the weekends and not make any commitments most weekends. My husband works 2 weekends out of the month and I know those weekends exhaust me. So, for at least one of those weekends, my little guy and I stay home and do whatever we want. I no longer feel bad about it. It is WONDERFUL!!! He and I both really enjoy these relaxing weekends where we are both comfortable and not stressed out by rushing to places. We will walk to the backyard for a little while and/or play with trucks and sticks on the deck. It’s not the zoo but its special time together and I think he enjoys it just as much!
I feel guilty…
My biggest concern to spending quiet, relaxing time at home on the weekends is that I feel guilty that we aren’t going to see or host my aging grandparents who live less than an hour away. You have to give yourself the permission to not take responsibility for other’s happiness. I love my grandparents dearly. I’m so grateful to still have the opportunity to visit with them and I’m grateful for all they have done for me and our family. I feel good about the visits we do have, but I also feel good about allowing myself the guilt-free quality time with my son. He deserves that downtime and it allows me to be much more of the mom and wife… the woman that I want to be.